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Self Confidence
Ajan
Raghunathan
Self-confidence is the confidence
one has in oneself, one’s knowledge, and one’s
abilities. It is the confidence of the type: "I can do
this". " I have the ability to do this".
Self-confidence is the one thing that is much more important than
many other abilities and traits. If you do not have
self-confidence, what you do will never become fruitful at all.
The fruits of what you do without self-confidence are lost.
Genuine self-confidence is the
forerunner of achievements. Self-confidence integrates the powers
of mind and body and focuses them towards the goal. Only such a
concentrated energy can reach the goal.
Self-confidence is the first step to
progress, development, achievement and success. Even if you have
a lot of abilities and a lot of knowledge, if you do not have
Self-confidence you cannot be a success. But, on the contrary,
even if you have only average abilities and knowledge, if you
have an unfailingly true self-confidence, chances are that you
achieve what you want to.
The successes and achievements in
turn will strengthen your self-confidence further. People like,
respect, believe and trust persons who are self-confident. It is
natural that persons with good confidence are offered leadership
and other office responsibilities of groups. More and more
opportunities automatically come the way of the person with a
good self-confidence. In short, success flows to those who have a
genuine Self-confidence.
Tips to improve your self-confidence
- Improve your Self Esteem
- Self
Esteem depends
on how one evaluates oneself, one’s
abilities and achievements rather than the
quality and quantity of these.
By improving one’s self-acceptance, self-concept, and self-image, one can improve one's self-esteem. Unless one is not able to
love oneself, like oneself respect and accept
oneself as one is -- with all the defects one has
-- it is not possible to have self-esteem. People do not accept one
who does not accept himself.
Keep a good self-image of yourself in your
mind’s eye. Imagine yourself as a strong,
confident and decisive person. Foster a positive
image of yourself. Never waste your precious
time, energy and effort by worrying about your
weakness and deficits. Accept your deficits,
defects as such understand clearly that worrying
and mourning over your defects, deficits,
weakness and negatives can never bring their
opposites. On the other hand, it will only worsen
your position further. So stop worrying over them
.
- Think and Act
Positively
- Be positive. Think of
your wins and successes. Think of your
achievements, positives. Find out new
opportunities. Be optimistic and be realistic.
Start to act confidently and positively. Write
down all your positives, strengths, virtues.
Write down the recent successes and achievements
you had. Keep the list with yourself and append
it whenever possible.
- Friends and Peers
- Mingle yourself with
people who are optimistic, positive and active.
Work with those who have confidence in themselves
and in yourself. Avoid the company of those who
destroy your Self-confidence and enthusiasm.
- As – If Technique
- Act and speak as if you
are confident. As if you are in control of your
own destiny, as if you are already a success, as
if you are there where you wanted to be, as if
you are psychologically a strong person who
cannot be affected by external threats of any
kind. Act, Speak and believe that you can
overcome each and every obstacle, face each and
every threat, solve each and every problem.
- Helping Others
- Help others whole
heartedly without expecting anything (even
thanks) in return. Help others just for the sake
of helping. You will gradually gain more and more
confidence by this. Again, some day, someone will
reciprocate these in some way or other. At least,
you will build up more and more goodwill for
yourself.
- Be happy
- Be happy. Smile. Be
friendly and approachable. Believe in yourself
and in your abilities. Believe that when one door
closes nine new ones open before you. Believe
that there are opportunities and look for them
untiringly and without hope.
- Alignment With
Stereotypes and Expectations
Behave in line with the stereotyped behavior of
those who are confident. This easily makes others
think that you are confident. Dress neatly and
smartly. Keep yourself straight when walking,
standing and sitting. Walk with firm steps, do
not be absent minded. Keep yourself energetic and
vital.
- Be active
- Be active and
enthusiastic. Plan your actions and do it
effectively and efficiently. Do it full
heartedly. Speak confidently. Don’t' be
indecisive. If you are aware of your goal, you'll
not be indecisive.
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