Self Confidence

Ajan Raghunathan

 

Self-confidence is the confidence one has in oneself, one’s knowledge, and one’s abilities. It is the confidence of the type: "I can do this". " I have the ability to do this". Self-confidence is the one thing that is much more important than many other abilities and traits. If you do not have self-confidence, what you do will never become fruitful at all. The fruits of what you do without self-confidence are lost.

Genuine self-confidence is the forerunner of achievements. Self-confidence integrates the powers of mind and body and focuses them towards the goal. Only such a concentrated energy can reach the goal.

Self-confidence is the first step to progress, development, achievement and success. Even if you have a lot of abilities and a lot of knowledge, if you do not have Self-confidence you cannot be a success. But, on the contrary, even if you have only average abilities and knowledge, if you have an unfailingly true self-confidence, chances are that you achieve what you want to.

The successes and achievements in turn will strengthen your self-confidence further. People like, respect, believe and trust persons who are self-confident. It is natural that persons with good confidence are offered leadership and other office responsibilities of groups. More and more opportunities automatically come the way of the person with a good self-confidence. In short, success flows to those who have a genuine Self-confidence.

Tips to improve your self-confidence

    1. Improve your Self Esteem
    2. Self Esteem depends on how one evaluates oneself, one’s abilities and achievements rather than the quality and quantity of these.

      By improving one’s self-acceptance, self-concept, and self-image, one can improve one's self-esteem. Unless one is not able to love oneself, like oneself respect and accept oneself as one is -- with all the defects one has -- it is not possible to have self-esteem. People do not accept one who does not accept himself.

      Keep a good self-image of yourself in your mind’s eye. Imagine yourself as a strong, confident and decisive person. Foster a positive image of yourself. Never waste your precious time, energy and effort by worrying about your weakness and deficits. Accept your deficits, defects as such understand clearly that worrying and mourning over your defects, deficits, weakness and negatives can never bring their opposites. On the other hand, it will only worsen your position further. So stop worrying over them .

    3. Think and Act Positively
    4. Be positive. Think of your wins and successes. Think of your achievements, positives. Find out new opportunities. Be optimistic and be realistic. Start to act confidently and positively. Write down all your positives, strengths, virtues. Write down the recent successes and achievements you had. Keep the list with yourself and append it whenever possible.
    5. Friends and Peers
    6. Mingle yourself with people who are optimistic, positive and active. Work with those who have confidence in themselves and in yourself. Avoid the company of those who destroy your Self-confidence and enthusiasm.
    7. As – If Technique
    8. Act and speak as if you are confident. As if you are in control of your own destiny, as if you are already a success, as if you are there where you wanted to be, as if you are psychologically a strong person who cannot be affected by external threats of any kind. Act, Speak and believe that you can overcome each and every obstacle, face each and every threat, solve each and every problem.
    9. Helping Others
    10. Help others whole heartedly without expecting anything (even thanks) in return. Help others just for the sake of helping. You will gradually gain more and more confidence by this. Again, some day, someone will reciprocate these in some way or other. At least, you will build up more and more goodwill for yourself.
    11. Be happy
    12. Be happy. Smile. Be friendly and approachable. Believe in yourself and in your abilities. Believe that when one door closes nine new ones open before you. Believe that there are opportunities and look for them untiringly and without hope.
    13. Alignment With Stereotypes and Expectations
      Behave in line with the stereotyped behavior of those who are confident. This easily makes others think that you are confident. Dress neatly and smartly. Keep yourself straight when walking, standing and sitting. Walk with firm steps, do not be absent minded. Keep yourself energetic and vital.
    14. Be active
    15. Be active and enthusiastic. Plan your actions and do it effectively and efficiently. Do it full heartedly. Speak confidently. Don’t' be indecisive. If you are aware of your goal, you'll not be indecisive.

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