Synergy Institute of Knowledge Management
Complex, Attingal, Trivandrum - 695101, Kerala, India.
PERSONAL GROWTH MENTORING/COACHING
all have astounding and infinite power within us. But, surprisingly, recent
studies have shown that, only a very small part of our potential is being put
to use. Many psychologists believe that
we use only less than 5% of our actual potential. So, any improvement in one's ability to
utilize one's own potential is truly a great thing.
“Most people live, whether physically, intellectually or morally, in a
very restricted circle of their potential being. They make use of a very small portion of
their possible consciousness – much like a man, who, out of his whole bodily
organism, should get into the habit of using and moving only his little
--Dr. William James, Father of American
Yes! This is exactly the case with most of
us. We want to achieve, to become
successful in our lives, to grow spiritually and become self-actualized or
self-realized. But, most of us do not
use our natural talents or potentials.
Because, we do not know that we actually have such a great
potential. Even if we know that we have
such a great potential in us, we do not know how to make it all happen.
But all of us should reach our maximum as
envisioned by Thomas Carlyle:
“Let each become capable of all that he was created capable of being;
expand, if possible, to his full growth, and show himself at length in his own
shape and stature, be these what they may.”
-- Thomas Carlyle
Personal Growth Mentoring/Coaching helps
you to move towards this future (as given by Thomas Carlyle above)from the present reality pointed out by Dr.William James
(in the first quote above).
WHY IS PERSONAL GROWTH IMPORTANT
Everyone, without exception, requires to outstretch
himself/herself not only to be leaders in their respective fields of endeavor,
but also to be competent (or even merely to exist) in this time of global
competition. You cannot outperform others unless you outsmart yourself.
Moreover, the demands placed upon each and everyone of
us by our jobs, socio-economic and technological changes are too high that our
current utilization of our own potential is not enough.
The 21st century is considered the Age of
Enlightenment by many. To grow
spiritually and become a realized person is often a necessity now.
When all others around you are putting efforts to outsmart
themselves, you cannot afford to ignore your own personal growth.
The ultimate cure for stress, stress related disorders or
psychological disorders or personality maladjustment is personal growth and
personal growth only.
Even persons with problems can gain much from personal
growth because psychological problems are really the result of insufficient
personal growth. Personal growth can be
done as a supportive technique in the case of anxiety, depression, obsession,
etc. As they improve their personal
growth, their problems dissolve automatically and thus disappear altogether
without any side-effects or symptom substitution.
Personal growth can bring you long awaited
success/achievement because it prepares you for the same.
Many people don’t know where they really want to reach in
their lives. Personal Growth gives them
a sense of direction.
Many people know they have the talents. But could not perform due to one or other
kind of barriers, which they are not aware of.
Personal Growth dissolves these barriers and help
them realize their talents.
Even highly successful people complain that they are not
happy or peaceful. Personal Growth gives
them insight into themselves and they could realize what was that which
actually hindered their happiness.
professionals & Executives, researchers & creative people etc. need
very much to outgrow themselves to maintain the heights they have reached or to
reach new heights. Without Personal
Growth this is not possible.
THE CONCEPT OF PERSONAL GROWTH MENTORING/COACHING (a.k.a.
mentoring/coaching (a.k.a. Life Coaching/Mentoring) is rather a novel concept
and especially in Kerala. But the
concept is popular in developed countries like the UK
and the US
where people need to use most of their potentials to be competent or sometimes,
even to survive in the highly competitive environment. In those countries people want to be more
productive and creative. And, those who
are already very productive and creative want to realize their full potentials
to evolve both materialistically and spiritually and finally become
self-actualized or self-realized. They
usually seek the help of Personal Growth Psychologists or Personal Growth
Experts for this.
In India, most of
us are still thinking that Psychology is for the so-called abnormal people
only. Interestingly, the National
Seminar on Professionalization of Psychology jointly conducted by Kerala
Manasasthra Parishad and Kerala Psychological Society in March, 2000 at Trivandrum did not even
dare to point out Personal Growth Mentoring/Coaching as one of the important
areas for Psychologists in the twenty first century. But many people are now slowly beginning to
realize that even normal people can be greatly helped by Psychologists. They turn to Psychologists for help in
re-building their relationships with their spouses or other relevant ones, to
help their children in their studies or in selecting a career/vocation, to help
young people to prepare themselves for marital life, to help them with stress
management etc. But we are far behind in
using the knowledge, experience and expertize of Personal Growth Psychologists
or other Personal Growth gurus in helping us realize our full potential or to
help us move towards success/achievement or towards the final goal of ultimate
Whether it is
your job/career/profession, or family/social life or your spiritual life, you
can surely gain much from Personal Growth Mentoring/Coaching by a Personal
Growth Psychologist/Professional. A Personal Growth Psychologist/Professional
works usually with normal people and sometimes with people with slight
personality disorders in which case he often starts from where the Clinical
Psychologist and the Community Psychologist have done with. In Personal Growth Mentoring/Coaching,
usually the Mentee will be connected to a Personal Growth
Psychologist/Professional whose responsibility is to help the Mentee in his
The Personal Growth Psychologist/Professional
educates, trains, encourages, advises, guides, suggests (resources & tools,
methods & techniques, strategies & tactics etc.) evaluates growth,
gives critical feedback, supports you in the problems you want to solve etc.
with an aim to give you deeper insights and to finally empower yourself in all
the ways possible so that you would become more and more free and
self-actualized. He/she helps you to
arrive at your own solutions. In short,
he/she partners in your personal growth.
HOW PERSONAL GROWTH MENTORING DIFFERS FROM
are considered a normal and as equal
are seen as a person who want to develop own potentialities
effect, No side effect
Growth Psychologists have a Humanistic orientation
Growth Psychologist takes every interaction/communication as an opportunity
to learn, to have deeper insights, for change & transformation
Growth Psychologist helps to correct your lifestyle.
Growth Psychologist focuses mainly on the positive, healthy and glorious side
of your personality
Growth Psychologists focus on aspirations, goals, vision & mission etc.
of the Mentee.
10. Keythinking revolves round
growth, health, expansion, rejuvenation, freedom, etc.
11. Focuses mainly on health &
well-being, happiness, all-round success, harmony, development, growth etc.
and comes out generally with a holistic or integrative solution (i.e.,
life-style correction) for the same
has multiple roles to perform. He/she
educates, trains, encourages, advises, guides, suggests (resources &
tools, methods & techniques, strategies & tactics etc.), conducts
psychological tests evaluates growth, gives critical, creative and timely
feedback, supports you in the problems you want to solve etc. with an aim to
give you deeper insights and to finally empower yourself in all the ways
possible so that you would become more and more free and self-actualized.
Helps you relate with communities or groups having the same goals,
aspirations etc. as you have and acts as a catalyst or facilitator for your
continuous growth and development.
He/she helps you to arrive at your own solutions. In short, he/she ‘partners’ in your personal
13. Continuous and more frequent
interaction for a long period. Although the interactions are at mutually
agreed upon timings, the mentee can contact the mentor out of time also, in
case of emergency.
are often seen as a person with problems—a sick person
are seen as a person who is struggling to become free from some problem
effects surface if the approach was analytical
a mechanistic orientation (especially, the Behaviorists)
mostly a symptom cure orientation (Medical approach / orientation) Very often, the root cause of the problem is not dealt with.
to correct your external behavior only
on the negative, weak side of your personality
on the past (Dynamic Psychology) or on mechanical behavior change
10. Keywords are repair, curing,
treatment, control, etc.
11. In general, focuses on your
dis-eases, dis-orders, in-sanities, dis-harmonies and the like and comes out
with analytical piece meal solutions for these.
12. A Clinical Psychologist/therapist/counselor
also has multiple roles to perform.
But not as many as the Mentor
13. Interaction is not continuous
and is for a limited period only. It
is less frequent and at the therapist’s will.
HOW PERSONAL GROWTH MENTORING DIFFERS FROM PERSONAL
PERSONAL GROWTH SEMINAR/WORKSHOP
1. Is for a comparatively long
2. Is personalized
3. There is an one-to-one
interaction between the mentee and the mentor
4. Continuous evaluation/assessment
and this is very frequent as well.
This sharpens the individual’s performance.
5. The mentee can specifically ask
for his needs and get them as he desires.
6. Very intimate & authentic
contact & relation between the mentor and the mentee takes place due to
deep dialogs and interactions
7. The mentee can ask any private
question because there is none other than the mentor there and the mentor
being a professional keeps secrets
8. The participant, if he so
desires can share his insights, problems, etc. with the Cyber PGM group and
get insights, opinions etc besides the expert advice etc. from the mentor.
9. While the mentee applies a
method/technique or the like, he is given continuous support. The mentor sees if the mentee understands
and applies things correctly. The
mentor corrects when something goes wrong.
He supports the mentee in the transition states as well so as to make
possible smooth personality change/transformation.
1. Usually lasts for a few hours
or at the most to a few days. So, not
sufficient to internalize & personalize the concepts & ideas
2. Caters to the needs of the
group in general and not personalized for any particular group member.
3. The interaction is
4. Evaluation/assessment is not
continuous and is much less frequent
5. Individual has no choice at all
but listen to what the speaker says even if he does not wants it
6. No intimate contact between the
participant and the trainer occurs.
7. The participant may not like to
expose himself regarding some private problem of his and so cannot ask about
it to the trainer/expert who is taking the seminar/workshop.
8. The participant can share
ideas, insights, problems, etc. with other participants and get more
insights, if he so desires.
9. There is no one to support you
when you implement the ideas etc. you got from the seminar/workshop and also
in transition stages.
HOW PERSONAL GROWTH MENTORING DIFFERS FROM PERSONAL
PERSONAL GROWTH COURSE/BOOK
1. Both indirect (mail/email) and
direct (face-to-face/phone/chat/voice chat) communication possible
content and methodology
3. No possibility of misconception
of ideas/concepts by the Mentee
4. Immediate and authentic
5. You can discuss your ambitions,
vision/mission, aspirations, life-goals, etc. and get feedback, suggestions,
expert advice etc.
6. You can discuss your problems,
difficulties, barriers, weaknesses, and so on and get feedback, suggestions,
expert advice etc.
7. Is dynamic and updated: new
ideas for Personal Growth are shared with the Mentee as they emerge or are
innovated from more experience, knowledge etc. of the Mentor or by other
experts world over (such as new discoveries, innovations, advancements etc.
in the field of Psychology/Personal Growth Psychology, Knowledge Management,
Human Relations, Human Resource Development, Psychology of Consciousness and
other relevant topics/subjects).
8. You get help on time.
9. Helps to empower yourself
10. You are involved, interacting
and so would gain more
11. Mentor has a greater responsibility
to see that the Mentee is devoloping
12. May connect you to other
relevant experts in our network if and when possible and required.
13. You can move in your own
1. Only indirect communication
2. You have no choice at all but
take the same generic content and methodology
3. Ideas/concepts May be misconceived/misunderstood
4. Feedback is delayed due to
5. You cannot discuss your ambitions,
aspirations, life-goals, vision/mission etc. at all
6. You cannot discuss your
problems, difficulties, barriers etc.
7. Is static.
8. Help is delayed because no
face-to-face, phone/mobile or chat/voice chat possible
9. Empowerment is relatively low
10. You are not forced involvement
11. No such.
12. No such
13. You have only a limited freedom
to move at your own pace
WHO IS PERSONAL GROWTH MENTORING/COACHING FOR
however intelligent or highly appraised he/she is, needs the help of experts in
Personal Growth. Surprisingly, it is the
highly intelligent persons who need more help not only because they are the
ones who are more aware of the benefits of Personal Growth, but also that they
are very often slaves of their own views.
Nobody, is free from Psychological/intellectual
blind spots. Only someone else can help
you to realize your blind spots, rigidities, superstitions, delusions,
unhealthy or unproductive coping mechanisms, ego defence mechanisms, rigid
personal rules of living, values, attitudes, and other limiting mechanisms that
constrict & restrict your own consciousness. A Personal Growth Psychologist/Professional
is trained to identify these, to make you aware of these and finally help you
to transcend these to make your awareness more and more open and pure.
of us do not know our own real strengths, talents, positives, other abilities
and skills etc. A Personal Growth
Psychologist/Professional can help you not only in identifying these but also
in improving them further so that you can continuously benefit from these.
Personal Growth Mentoring is thus for:
Mentally healthy & Normal individuals, in general
Professionals & Fast-track executives, Decision makers
Business people, Entrepreneurs, Solo or Micro business owners
People with personality maladjustment problems
People with high IQs
Highly creative individuals
Mothers seeking to manage their homes better
Students of higher education/professional colleges
People who want to be affirmed and empowered
Anyone genuinely interested in his/her personal growth,
Do you think that at least one of the following describe your situation? Then
Personal Growth Mentoring is surely for you.
You know that you have talent but you have not achieved what
you really deserved
You know that you can do much better, but cannot perform at
the time of need
You know that you are working hard, but cannot make the
desired improvement at all
You want to improve your performance, but do not know how to
You want to lead a peaceful and calm life, but you are
always under stress
You are making a lot of money, but do not know how to manage
your money and so you often end up taking loans
You have no friends at all
Your relationship with your parents, siblings, spouse,
children, or relevant others are not satisfactory at all
You have a vision and a mission. But you have no one to reflect it upon; to
help you make it successful
You are an average person, but you know that by Personal
Growth you can improve a lot
You have high ideas, but there is nobody with whom you can discuss
them so that they can be made crystal clear
AIMS/OBJECTIVES OF PERSONAL GROWTH MENTORING/COACHING
aim of Personal Growth Mentoring/Coaching is to help the Mentee to achieve what
he/she wants in his/her personal growth by empowering him/her. This includes both materialistic and
WHAT IS DONE IN PERSONAL GROWTH MENTORING/COACHING
Helps you to improve self-awareness, and to improve your
Helps you to know where you are now
Helps you to set your life goal
Helps you to be emotionally stable; to enjoy the benefits of
deep rest and relaxation
Helps to use your knowledge better in all possible ways
(Personal Knowledge Management)
Helps you to realize your unique life goal
Helps you to realize whether your goals/aspiration/ambitions
Helps you by suggesting resources for the attainments of
Helps you by suggesting methods/techniques, strategies etc.
for the faster attainment of your goals
Connects you to the right people in the SMART (Synergy Mastermind Ardent Resource Team) network, if and when possible
Empowers yourself in all the possible ways
Helps you to become more and more independent, free to take
responsibility for your own life; to be more self-reliant; to take and enjoy
life as it comes.
Helps you to ‘go where you want to reach’ in job or in life
Helps you to face the realities of life bravely and
Helps you to get deep insight that would transform your life
Clears your doubts about spirituality, the ultimate
questions in life etc. and gives you insights in these; Helps you develop pure
spiritually (not ritualistic, fundamentalistic spirituality)
Helps you to realize your own potentials, talents
Helps you to learn quickly, effectively and deeply
Helps you to become more creative
Helps you to sharpen your intuition
Helps you by giving you the right feedback at the right time
Helps you to become more & more successful and to
sustain that success
Helps you to achieve what you value the most in your life
HOW IS OUR PERSONAL GROWTH MENTORING/COACHING DIFFERENT FROM OTHER SIMILAR
Personal Growth is wrongly defined or interpreted by many people including the
Personal Growth Professionals themselves.
Most of them equate personal growth to achievement of some material end
alone. Some of them consider that skill
development and personal growth are the same.
The benefits one can gain from Personal Growth Mentoring/Coaching depend
greatly on the definition of what
Personal Growth is. So, if your
definition for Personal Growth is not holistic, you could gain only meager
Personal Growth. If you define Personal Growth as achievement or success in
some endeavor of your choice, you realize ONLY that much. If you define Personal Growth as skill
development or Public Speaking ability or Communication Skills or Social
skills, you will achieve ONLY that.
Thus, you need to have a definition of Personal Growth which is
holistic. Fortunately, we have a holistic / integrative view of Personal Growth
and we share our view with the Mentee and thus he/she could benefit more.
FEE, REGISTRATION PROCEDURE, MODE
OF PAYMENT ETC.
the fees for different Mentees are different because the requirement for
support and the involvement from the part of the Personal Growth
Psychologist/Mentor will be different with different persons. The fee (PER PERSON for a period of ONE YEAR)
starts from Rs. 10,000/- onwards depending on the requirements and other things. The registration procedure is as follows (for
Indian Residents and NRIs working in the Far East):
“PRIMARY DATA FOR REQUIREMENT ANALYSIS”
will be sent
to you and you have to provide all the details asked in that. After analyzing it, a fee is arrived for your
personalized PGM and you will be informed about this.
- You have
to send in a DD for that amount. The Demad Draft should be made in favor
"INDIAN BANK, ATTINGAL A/c Synergy
put the above line within quotes as such in the ‘in favor of’ column on the DD
the Demand Draft to:
Attingal - 695101, Trivandrum,
THIS IS THE
FEE FOR ONE YEAR and is applicable ONLY for Indian Residents and NRIs working
in the Far East.
After we have received the DD, we will send you a Disclaimer
Our copy of the Disclaimer is to be
signed and sent back to us.
Once this reaches us, your
membership is activated. You will be
given your membership ID
and other details required to
utilize the benefits of the membership.
We may need more details about both your personal and
This information will be kept
confidential and will only be used as part of designing
personalized Growth Package for
You will also be required to fill up some questionnaires
etc. if and when required.
You will also be asked to sign in for a new FREE email ID
exclusively for the Personal Growth
Based on “Who you are / Where you are” in Personal Growth at
present and what your specific felt-needs are, a Personal Growth Package
personalized (i.e., tailor-made) for you will
be designed, and implemented. This system will be based mainly on The
Holigrative Psychology (Formerly known as the Integrative Psychology) of
Although the Personal Growth
Package mainly is holistic/integrative, it may resort
to analytical procedures if and when they are found useful in your particular
case. Both ancient (mostly
Eastern, and especially Indian)
and Modern (Western) approaches will be employed.
The PGM Package
* Articles via
reading (books, websites, ebooks etc.)
to contact the Mentor/our
network via phone/mobile for deep dialogs etc. for your
own personal growth (you have to contact the mentor by phone/mobile at the
mutually agreed upon timings.
* Answers to
your personal questions via email/chat/voice chat
chat/face-to-face counseling, if required
(face to face) discussions/counseling will be arranged at our premises, if you
need it (You have to reach there at your own cost, after taking an appointment
with the mentor.)
* Online discussion forum membership
* Chat and
voice chat (This is for 1 hour per week for one year chat/voice chat.)
7. You can
extend your membership after one year, if you wish. You know, Personal Growth is
an ongoing process.
WHAT YOU GET AND WHAT IT IS WORTH
actually get is strictly speaking intangible and thus CANNOT be measured in money terms.
But SOME of the services we provide you as
part of Personal Growth Mentoring can be measured in money terms. Remember, it is only the surface. What is in the depth of these are invaluable
IT IS WORTH
phone/email/chat/voice chat per month(i.e., 36-48 per year) *
email articles(includes topics of your own choice) per week
discount for our publications
in our Discussion Groups
Rs.24,000/= to Rs.48,000/=
Rs.24,000/= to Rs.48,000/=
Depends on the publication
And much more
That is, what you get is worth at least Rs. 96,000/=
in money terms
BENEFITS OF PERSONAL GROWTH MENTORING/COACHING
Achievement / success
Life Competencies development
Social &/or knowledge networking
Knowledge & insight
Effectiveness and efficiency
(Office): 0470-2627607 (11 am to 7pm)
(Home):0470-2635991 (9pm to 12 night & 8 am to 10.30 am)
NB: Please feel free to contact Mr.Ajan Raghunathan for any
clarifications or for more information etc.
CONCLUSION / SUMMARY
Personal Growth is a must for anyone who plans to
become successful in his/her life – either materialistically or spiritually or
both. Only Personal Growth
Psychologists/Professionals with holistic/integrative mentoring/coaching
methods can help you with personal growth covering physical, psycho-social and
spiritual dimensions of personality. So,
if you are genuinely interested in your personal growth, register yourself for
the Personal Growth Mentoring/Coaching and thus be able to live a fulfilled
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